Helpful Resources for Those Seeking Therapy

Books For Individuals

Anxiety and Anger

• The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships By Harriet Lerner

• The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key RelationshipS By Harriet Lerner

• Beyond Anger: A guide for men By Thomas J. Harbin, Ph.D.

• Taming Your Gremlin: A Guide to Enjoying Yourself By Richard D. Carson

Self-Esteem

• Healing Your Emotional Self: A Powerful Program to Help You Raise Your Self-Esteem, Quiet Your Inner Critic, and Overcome Your Shame By Beverly Engel

• Self-Esteem By Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning

• The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are By Brene Brown

• Don't Sweat The Small Stuff...And It's All Small Stuff By Richard Carlson

Dating

• Keeping the Love You Find:  A Personal Guide By Harville Hendrix

• Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate By Stan Tatkin

Other

• The Power of Full Engagement: Managing Energy, Not Time, Is the Key to High Performance, Health and Happiness By Jim Loehr and Tony Schwartz

• Who Moved My Cheese? By Spencer Johnson

Books for Couples

Communication & Connection

• Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

• Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples By Harville Hendrix                    

• The Couples Companion: Meditations and Exercises for Getting the Love You Want By Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt

• Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last By John Gottman and Nan Silver 

• Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert By John Gottman and Nan Silver

• The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate By Harriet Lerner

• The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships By Harriet Lerner

• Fighting for Your Marriage By Howard Markman, Scott Stanley and Susan L. Blumberg

Sex and Passion

• And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives by John Gottman

• Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence By Esther Perel

• Rekindling Desire: A Step by Step Program to Help Low-Sex and No-Sex Marriages By Barry W. McCarthy, Emily J. McCarthy

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• Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships By David Schnarch

• Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life By Emily Nagoski

Affairs and Infidelity

• The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity By Esther Perel

• After the Affair By Janis Abrahms Spring, with Michael Spring

• How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To By Janis Abrahms Spring

• Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy By Frank Pittman

Books for Parents & Families

Parenting & Pregnancy

• And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives by John Gottman

• Giving the Love That Heals: A Guide for Parents By Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt 

• Parenting Companion: Meditation and Exercises for Giving the Love That Heals By Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt

• The Intentional Family: Simple Rituals to Strengthen Family Ties By William J. Doherty

Uncoupling & Divorce

• The Good Divorce By Constance Ahrons

• The Co-Parenting Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted and Resilient Kids from Little Ones to Young Adults through Divorce or Separation By Karen Bonnel

• Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends By Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti

• Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum

Couple & Family Resources

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) is the professional association for the field of marriage and family therapy representing the professional interests of more than 25,000 marriage and family therapists throughout the United States, Canada and abroad.

The American Psychiatric Association is a medical specialty society recognized worldwide. Over 35,000 U.S. and international member physicians work together to ensure humane care and effective treatment for all persons with mental disorders, including mental retardation and substance-related disorders. Its vision is a society that has available, accessible quality psychiatric diagnosis and treatment.

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance (DBSA) provides information and available resources including support groups for depression and bipolar disorder.

Families for Depression Awareness. This is a non-profit organization dedicated to helping families recognize and cope with depressive disorders. The organization provides education, outreach, and advocacy to support families and friends. Families for Depression Awareness is made up of families who have lost a family member to suicide or have watched a loved one suffer with depression.

The Family Resource Network was established in response to the need of families to access information about the behavioral health system and the support groups who educate them.

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) is the nation's largest grassroots mental health organization dedicated to improving the lives of persons living with serious mental illness and their families.

National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) is the lead federal agency for research on mental disorders. NIMH is one of the 27 Institutes and Centers that make up the National Institutes of Health (NIH), the nation’s medical research agency. NIH is part of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (HHS)
 

Psychotherapy & Coaching

Therapist Directories

• Therapistlocator.net

• Imago Therapist Directory

• Psychology Today Therapist Finder
  

Counseling in New York City

• Rebecca Hendrix, LMFT

• Metropolitan Marriage and Family Therapy

• Midtown Marriage and Family Therapy

• Merry Frons, LCSW
  

Counseling in North Carolina
 

Articles & Quizzes

Articles

• Marriage Preparation

• Depression

• Perinatal Mood Disorders
  

Self Assessments and Screening Tests

These tests are intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. They are not a substitute for professional diagnosis or for the treatment of any health condition. If you would like to seek the advice of a licensed mental health professional, please contact us to set up an appointment.
 

Healthy Place

Depression Screening Test
Taking a depression-screening test is one of the quickest and easiest ways to determine whether you are experiencing symptoms of clinical depression. The depression-screening test on this site is completely anonymous and confidential.

Anxiety Screening Test

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Test

Postpartum Depression Test

 

Personality Tests

The Enneagram
Measures personality along 9 different scales. This test is huge.... 180 question and is loosely based on a 9 point diagram which is based on mystic theories but is fairly comprehensive in its analysis.

The Henderson/Zimbardo Shyness Questionnaire
The Shyness Institute is conducting a survey on shyness. This questionnaire has 35 questions. No identifying information will be taken or kept.
 

Relationship Tests

The Gottman Relationship Checkup
The Gottman Relationship Checkup is designed as a tool for use by clinicians in a professional setting. Ask your CMFT therapist to invite you to complete the Gottman Relationship Checkup.

Relationship Diagnostic Questionnaire
After finishing this test you will receive a FREE snapshot report with a summary evaluation and graph. You will then have the option to purchase the full results for $5.95

Crisis Intervention & Support

Help for New Yorkers in Crisis

NYC Well is your connection to free, confidential mental health support. Speak to a counselor via phone, text or chat and get access to mental health and substance misuse services, in more than 200 languages, 24/7/365.
 

Substance Abuse & Addiction

• Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)

• Narcotics Anonymous (NA)

• Marijuana Anonymous (MA) 1-800-766-6779

• Cocaine Anonymous (CA) 1-800-347-8998

• Co-anon - Family and Friends of Cocaine Dependence

• Al-anon/Alateen - Families and Friends of Alcoholics

• Co-Dependents Anonymous - Spouses and Partners of Substance Dependence
  

Treatment Centers

• Caron Treatment Centers

• Caron Treatment Center in New York City

• Passages Malibu
  

Food, Eating and Body Related 

• Anorexics Anonymous

• Food Addicts Anonymous

• Over-Eaters Anonymous

• Eating Disorder Treatment Center
  

Gambling and Debt

• Gamblers Anonymous

• Debtors Anonymous

• Gamblers Anonymous - Self-help group for families of gamblers